Many of my friends have created hashtags for their relationship…you know, to be hip, like kiddos. So when they post pictures of their coupledom, they hashtag with the relationship hashtag. I think its adorable and fun…but I felt left out. I have no relationship to hashtag about.
So…#ccdoesntdate was born.
Being single is difficult and at times, its hard to not just get into a relationship to avoid being single. I’m a smart girl and as I have blogged about before…I don’t want to force anything. I prefer things to progress naturally. In the meantime, I think its important for me to go out, spend time with interesting people and allow for things to progress naturally.
#ccdoesntdate represents this philosophy I have adopted for my social life right now. I am not looking to date anyone, as in be in a full-fledged relationship with anyone. I just want to get to know people, have some fun and see what happens.
The #ccdoesntdate hashtag shows up on pictures where I am doing just that or when I am being loved in other ways…because guess what, romantic love is not the only satisfying love out there.
Live. Laugh. Love.
This weekend, I stayed in a fancy hotel in Los Colinas with two of the girls. It was really fun. We stayed up late Friday night talking about girl stuff…it felt like a teenage sleep over. We played with hair and makeup, we talked to friends on the phone and goofed off on the net… You know, typical teenage girl stuff.
Anyway, I learned something about myself. I am not a fan of the industrial, modern loft-style. It felt like a fancy prison… Like maybe I was guilty of some white collar crime. Everything was a shade of gray (yes, there were probably 50 shades) and white (some reds and browns, including an awesome exposed brick wall) and had a warehouse-ish feeling. Everything except the bed was hard and cold… I just didn’t like it that much.
I think I’m a genuine small town girl, with a touch of old Europe. ;) I like flowers in the window seals, shutters on the windows, pastel colors, claw foot tubs, pedestal sinks, detailed and ornate woodwork (but not gothic) … I like a warm, cozy feel.
Despite my dislike of the architectural style, I had a great time. The two ladies I spent the day with were the kind of people you enjoy regardless of where you are or what you are doing… The three of us could crack up laughing at the dreary-ist of events. Steel Magnolia-style! I truly love those ladies!
Become CPR certified
Compete in a 5k
Get a 90 minute massage
Buy and wear a size 6 suit
Reach my ideal weight
Get admitted to another federal court
Update my passport
Pay down debts
Mack Brown came into my life in 1998. I was a student at the University of Texas in Austin. My dad talked about football quite a bit, but I just politely nodded. I had some understanding of the game, but not enough to have a coherent conversation. Mack changed that.
There was something different about Mack. He was excited for the football program at Texas and he spread his enthusiasm. He and his wife bought pizzas for the students standing in line for tickets. He asked the fans to come early, stay late, be loud and wear orange. It didn’t take long for the stadium to fill with a sea of orange.
From day one, it was clear that he loved these players like his own children and that he wanted the best for them. Mack coaches from the heart. He reported to the media with grace, never placing the blame on just one player. He recognized that his players were still just kids and needed guidance. Every Spring, he and his wife hosted a formal dinner to teach the players proper etiquette.
With a man like this in charge, who wouldn’t be intrigued? I began watching the games and following the program. At first it wasn’t because I loved football. It was because I liked Mack. However as the team succeeded, my love for football developed. In a few short seasons, I could even speak football.
Now that the language barrier was gone, my dad and I had something else in common. Our conversations were no longer so much about the weather or me nodding politely as he spoke football. We were bonding over Longhorn football.
A lot of people have Mack to thank for good times at the University of Texas… about 100,000 people per week for about 12 weeks each fall … However there are few who have Mack to thank for a rejuvenated relationship with their dad.
Thank you Mack Brown. You are a legend at the University of Texas at Austin and a hero in my heart.
Last New Years, I made this list…And now 2013 is almost up….
Bake something yummy
Be happy for 365 days
Be pasta free for 1 month
Become CPR certified
Break the habit of apologizing
Compete in a 5k
Cut out sodas from my diet for one month
Cut out unhealthy relationships in my life
Do a random act of kindness
Do something I hate for someone I love.
Don’t buy lunch at work for one month
Finish couch to 5k
Get a 90 minute massage
Get a library card.
Get a new desk
Get an emergency kit
Get licensed in federal court
Go one week without TV
Go scuba diving
Go to the Texas-OU game
Improve professional wardrobe
Increase my savings account by 50%
Lower my cholesterol.
Make drinking coffee a morning habit
Make drinking water a habit
Moisturize at night/sunscreen every day
Pay off my car
Pick out a complex dish and perfect a recipe for it.
Plan and book a trip to somewhere I really want to go.
Reach my ideal weight.
Read 50 books
Save 10% of my income
Spend an entire day with my best girlfriend
Spend one day without my iphone/email/internet.
Start painting again
Take a hot-air balloon ride
Take a real vacation
Touch the floor w/ flat hands
Try being a vegetarian for a week .
Try meditating each day for a week.
Update my passport
Walk on the treadmill at least 5 days a week
Write a thank you letter to someone who has made a difference in my life.
Write an apology letter to someone I owe one to.
Write more often
I recently shadowed some photographers in the post production process. There is a lot more that goes into post production than I ever thought. Even though one of my best friends is a professional photographer, I never realized how much she works… After my shadowing experience, I got to thinking about how much time she actually spends.
First, there is the culling process, which can take anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour depending on how many pictures were taken. Then comes the editing process, which generally takes no less than an hour and half regardless of how many pictures are taken and finally, the processing, which takes the longest. This was just for a 20-30 minute mini photo session… And to think they had an average of 18 sessions a day for minis. Let’s do the math… That is about 4 to 4.5 hours post production time per session… 18 sessions is 72 hours worth of post production time. HOLY COW! No wonder it takes 4-6 weeks to get your pictures back after a session….and to think my two photographer friends have 40 hour a week jobs, husbands, kids and many other responsibilities…
I asked the photographers if there was a more efficient way to do their post production work and they said not if they wanted to produce a quality product. There is a certain type of file that professional grade pictures must be saved under, which slows down the computer during the culling, editing and processing process. When they are all done, they put the files in a smaller format that us lay people can manage. Needless to say, it’s a lot of work and a lot of time staring intensely at a computer screen. (Can you imagine the headache after 4.5 hours of scrutinizing a computer screen?)
The photographers said that they set their camera up to try to eliminate as much of the culling, editing and processing as possible. However, there are certain things that can only be repaired in post production. Also, I’ve assisted many photo shoots and events with my friend and since I’m not as experienced and trained as she is, I’m not able to eliminate as much as she can. My photos probably have more post production work than hers.
Of course, with every profession, there is a lot more behind the scenes work done by the professional than most realize. I am a lawyer and I do a lot more than meet with people or appear in court, mostly after hours at the office on the computer. (Where do you think that 32 page divorce decree came from?) Well, I’ve recently come to realize that the same is true with photographers. I now feel really bad for hounding my best friend constantly to get me my CD. I called her after this experience and told her that June would be fine for my Family Christmas mini session CD.